Comments on: Personal Development Roadblocks – “The Situation”

By: 7 Common Procrastination Excuses

7 Common Procrastination Excuses — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 16:37:00 +0000

[...] just an excuse we use to rationalize why we aren’t starting on our goals and dreams. We blame the situation – even though if we were motivated enough, we could make it the right time – right now. [...]

By: You Can’t Start a Fire…

You Can’t Start a Fire… — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 18:22:05 +0000

[...] others for where we are. Doing so oftentimes leads to personal development roadblocks like blaming the situation, and focusing on our past mistakes instead of the people we are today.Our past has brought us here [...]

By: The Key to Making Wise Decisions

The Key to Making Wise Decisions — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 21:19:04 +0000

[...] than accepting responsibility. My friend Sid Savara addressed this nicely in an article called Personal Development Roadblocks – “The Situation.” Then there are those who postpone making decisions because they are waiting for the right [...]

By: Persistence – Knocked Off His Stride, But Not Off His Feet

Persistence – Knocked Off His Stride, But Not Off His Feet — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 18:09:24 +0000

[...] Circumstances where, like in my father’s case, it would have been easy to give in to “the situation” and just walk away – but where we chose not to.I am not proposing anyone continue down [...]

By: selfdevelopmentcourses

selfdevelopmentcourses — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 02:14:48 +0000

Realize that nothing is non-negotiable.. Right point :)
THings can be changed if we choose so. But some things can't be changed tho. If a thing is imposible to be changed, we just need to change our attitude towards it.

self development courses can help us understand more about confusing things. I hope people will get into these.

By: selfdevelopmentcourses

selfdevelopmentcourses — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 02:11:49 +0000

self development courses can help us understand more about confusing things. I hope people will get into these.

By: When The Price Of Change Is Too High

When The Price Of Change Is Too High — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 18:27:29 +0000

[...] easy to put off making real change because of “the situation” (Sid Savara has a great post on “the situation” as a personal development roadblock.) But in some cases, you may need to take the hard decision that while you want to change something [...]

By: Sid Savara

Sid Savara — Sat, 02 May 2009 04:26:14 +0000

Hi Danny,
Thanks for your comment! Definitely agree that taking responsibility has
been a theme I've heard everywhere, from blogs to news. I wonder if part of
it has to do with the current economic issues - large issues always lead to
people asking whose fault it is, and looking at someone to blame (or, asking
how we are personally to blame)

=)

By: Danny

Danny — Tue, 28 Apr 2009 06:11:02 +0000

Great post with a theme I seem to be hearing a lot lately: taking responsibility.

It reminds me that if I created my problems, then I have the power to stop creating my problems.

I like you're approach. It's unique and practical.

By: Web Design

Web Design — Tue, 21 Apr 2009 14:09:50 +0000

I have been thinking about many thing that could help personal development … What I have come to conclusion is that, if you be honest with your own self, and try to realize the and face the problem than it can help you to move forward.

By: How To Be Successful | Motivate Thyself

How To Be Successful | Motivate Thyself — Sun, 19 Apr 2009 22:56:30 +0000

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By: Link Up Wednesday: Five Must Read Productivity Articles : Command Your Time

Link Up Wednesday: Five Must Read Productivity Articles : Command Your Time — Wed, 15 Apr 2009 03:35:42 +0000

[...] — Sid Savara — Personal Development Roadblocks – “The Situation” — Too often we surround ourselves with excuses. This post actually tells us to do the [...]

By: Gideon King

Gideon King — Tue, 24 Mar 2009 22:44:05 +0000

Reading about personal development roadblocks at http://budurl.com/2wjm

By: Sid Savara

Sid Savara — Fri, 13 Mar 2009 06:33:19 +0000

Hey Jeff,
Thanks for your comment! I'm still full of excuses, but hopefully not as
many as I used to ;)

By: Jeff@MySuperChargedLife

Jeff@MySuperChargedLife — Wed, 11 Mar 2009 21:26:30 +0000

We are all full of excuses aren't we? I really like how you've broken them down here. It goes very nicely with the post that I wrote on my site today. Determining a root cause and then attacking it is right on track!

By: Jeff Nickles

Jeff Nickles — Wed, 11 Mar 2009 20:23:28 +0000

What is “the situation” holding you back? Reading what @SidSavara says we can do to break free! http://is.gd/mWnO

By: Eric Hamm

Eric Hamm — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 12:57:04 +0000

Yeah, I've gone down that road and will probably go back. Like you said, it ends up offending a few, but I figure it's my body and it's ME who end up feeling crappy if I don't eat foods that are good for me. And yes, October will be a BIG test. :-) Eric

By: Sid Savara

Sid Savara — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 01:25:11 +0000

Hey Eric,
Thanks! Being watchful of my eating when I eat out is one of my challenges
as well. I've started just being a bit rude, and not eating things that I
think are bad for me. I am hopeful that in the long term, people will just
get used to the fact that I won't eat high carb/sugar/fat etc foods. Not
saying it's the right approach, just that this is the approach I'm currently
experimenting with =)

We'll see how well it holds up when we meet up in Vegas in October!

By: Eric Hamm

Eric Hamm — Sun, 08 Mar 2009 15:03:33 +0000

I remember you recently made the comment about using the 'Leo Model' and dropping high impact posts. Well, Sid, this one DEFINITELY falls into that category. Well done! (I LOVE the chart!) :-)

I've recently been struggling with sticking to my low sugar/white flour diet, as Liz and I have had a bunch of events back to back that involved dinner out and dessert (Birthday cake and such). I definitely wouldn't NOT go to these events as they are important. So it's a self discipline issue.

As bad as I feel when I can't sleep at 3 am, I keep giving into the temptation when the cake is staring me in the face. Anyway, it's just something I struggle with on occasion, but I really like you're focus on NOT blaming the situation. By doing that, we take the power out of our own hands. Eric

By: Sid Savara

Sid Savara — Sun, 08 Mar 2009 03:55:11 +0000

Hi Derek,
Thanks for your comment!

I see your point. I don't think I have really explored that, it sounds in
some ways that you're saying some people can get so caught up in this cycle
of self improvement for improvement's sake, that they lose sight of why they
began working on a particular aspect of their life in the first place.

I think there's definitely something to consider there and a good thought to
chew on =)

By: Sid Savara

Sid Savara — Sun, 08 Mar 2009 03:53:11 +0000

Hi Lainie,
Thanks for your comment! Definitely agree with you – sometimes the
situation *can* be a hindrance

Thanks for a different take on things – you're right, I haven't developed
that perspective in this article, and I appreciate the way you laid it out
=)

By: Sid Savara

Sid Savara — Sun, 08 Mar 2009 03:51:11 +0000

Hi Tim,
You always manage to lead me down a new rabbit hole! I briefly looked up NLP
after reading your comment – can't say I know much about the subject and the
terminology, but it appears that I may be using some NLP concepts for self
improvement. I'm sure many authors I've read have probably referred to some
NLP techniques without calling it NLP – thanks for opening my eyes and
giving me something new to learn about =)

By: Sid Savara

Sid Savara — Sun, 08 Mar 2009 03:49:11 +0000

Hi Andrew,
Thanks for comment, and your advice! I'm going to have to look Lou Tice up
sometime =). Sounds like someone I could learn a thing or two from!

By: Derek @ NuHabits

Derek @ NuHabits — Sat, 07 Mar 2009 07:17:18 +0000

That was some practical advice. Well thought out and well written, your writing provides insight without coming off sounding like a Guru. However, I couldn't help pontificating about what bothered me a bit about that first paragraph.

"We are all capable of so much more than we accomplish, and often fall short of our potential."

Then it hit me: this is the attitude I've had from an extremely young age. Accomplish more, reach your potential, set goals, achieve, repeat. I have been in this loop for over a decade now, having gone through hundreds of different iterations (addressing issues that are physical, mental, spiritual, financial, emotional....), so am I reaching my potential yet? You get the point.

I think there is something to be said for letting go a bit; trying to find a middle-way somewhere between the self-limiting excuses on the left and the never ending pursuit of perfection on the right, accepting myself as-is shortcomings and all. In my experience, a life of personal development can be likened to an ongoing wack-a-mole of personal shortcomings/defects, but at the same time you gotta enjoy where you're at in the present, flaws and all, or whats the point?

I'm not saying anything that is contradictory to the points you're making here Sid, and I'm not suggesting that you haven't contemplated the idea behind my response (perhaps you already covered it in another blog post - if so let me know) but I just wanted to state that there seems to be a paradox in self-improvement, where if you take it to a single-minded extreme, it can actually turn into one more limitation - ultimately denying yourself true freedom.

By: James

James — Sat, 07 Mar 2009 00:50:52 +0000

Great advice my friend, I'll keep checking back to you often and keep up the positive writings.