You Can’t Start a Fire…

It’s 1984.  Bruce Springsteen is about to be one of the biggest stars in the world – and he’s enraged.

Fire Flame

After wrapping up his final recording session at The Hit Factory in New York city he meets with Jon Landau, his manager, to pick the final 14 songs for his upcoming album Born In The USA.  Over two years in the making, they have at least 70 tracks to pick from, however, Landau tells Bruce there isn’t a single hit among them and the two of them get into an argument.  Bruce is frustrated, not just by the argument, but also by the challenges of trying to finish this album.  He channels his frustration into writing one more song for the album.

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History will prove Landau wrong as there were already six Top 10 hits in that pile which made it onto Born In The USA, however the song Bruce wrote in his irked state ultimately became his biggest hit – Dancing in The Dark.

Dancing in The Dark was a huge success, and has been covered dozens, perhaps hundreds of times. One of my favorite covers is in the video below, by Tegan and Sara.

More than just a catchy song though, the lyrics provide life lessons as we get a glimpse of Bruce’s state of mind during that time:  on the cusp of reaching his dreams, and yet frustrated that he was so close but still not finished.

Lesson One:  You Can’t Start a Fire Without a Spark

No matter what you want in life, you’ve got to have a spark. You’ve got to have something, anything that can push you forth to action – and you’ve got to take that first step.

Regardless how much metawork we do or how much we talk about what we want to accomplish – in the end, it’s our actions that define whether we fail or succeed.

Take a step, even if it’s a small step.

You can’t start a fire without a spark

Lesson Two: You Can’t Start a Fire Sitting Around Crying Over a Broken Heart

Crying over a broken heart symbolizes getting caught up in and constantly thinking about past failure or negative experiences.

We can’t move forward on our goals while pitying ourselves, or blaming others for where we are.  Doing so oftentimes leads  to personal development roadblocks like blaming the situation, and focusing on our past mistakes instead of the people we are today.

Our past has brought us here today, but the negative experiences and heartbreak don’t define who we are – and most importantly, the only way it will define what the rest of our life holds is if we let it.

You can’t start a fire sitting around crying over a broken heart

Lesson Three: You Can’t Start a Fire Worrying About Your Little World Falling Apart

Don’t worry about what you have to lose. It has been documented over and over again in economics and psychology that we overvalue material possessions we own, and are more scared of losing than we are of potential gains.

We also, as Dan Gilbert describes in Stumbling upon Happiness and discusses in the video below, are notoriously bad at calculating the effect experiences will have on our lives – what will bring us happiness, and how hard it will be to bounce back from unpleasant experiences.

The fact is when we are too afraid too risk what little we have, our inaction means we risk infinitely more – we risk losing all the possibilities that might be, because we don’t take action.

Stop waiting for a “someday.”

You can’t start a fire worrying about your little world falling apart

What’s Your Fire?

So get out there. Reclaim your dreams.  Live your life.

Start some fires

Well, not literally. You know what I mean.

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  • This is just one of those songs that provides a sudden burst of confidence and motivation...and coupled with the post itself, provided me with a huge spark for today! Thank you for this great post!
  • I really liked this post and especially the TED video. I think it's especially important to understand the points he is making about choices and their effects on our happiness. Barry Schwartz also did fascinating research on this phenomenon, showing that when we have many choices we tend to be less happy with our eventual decision. Think about what this means in our modern lifestyle, for every trip to the grocery store, for every time we choose our next location if we're nomading. Sometimes having many choices is a double edged sword.
  • Sid,

    Given the recent project we've been working on I Think there's no doubt your point has been proven on me. The email you sent me was the spark and it pretty much lid an unstoppable blaze inside my mind of ideas and creativity. Love how you used the Bruce Springsteen analogy.
  • Wonderful post and great cover by Tegan and Sara. Thanks Sid. I am new to your blog but am loving it.
    Gary
  • Hi Gary,

    Thanks! I'm glad you liked it =). I always love meeting new readers on my
    blog, welcome!
  • Chris_Harmon
    Sid this is your best post. Tegan and Sara really nailed "Dancing in the Dark" I love the chiming guitar sounds. Keep up the good work!
  • Hi Chris,

    Thanks so much for the compliment! I really appreciate your support and I'm
    glad you enjoyed the post. I had a good time writing it (and listening to
    Tegan and Sara while I did!)
  • Very True Sid!
    Sometimes life throws us a couple of punches but then it's up to us to decide if we are going to stay down or get back up again and fight back:)
  • Hey Diggy,

    Thanks for the comment man! I find myself inspired by and agreeing with
    your writing often too =)
  • These are wonderful lessons Sid, and they contain a lot of emotions I've been encountering in the past months. They are so true. Every day now I live more and more by their principles ans applications. Great post.
  • Hi Oscar,

    Thanks so much for your comment!

    I love finding lessons in song lyrics - one of my friends once told me her
    favorite songs are ones where the lyrics express how she feels better than
    she could herself.
  • Amazing post, Sid. I played the video while reading your post. Goosebumps. The lyrics are powerful and carry an important message. I think the three lessons give us that typical familiar feeling when something strikes a chord within us. It did it for me anyway.

    You know, posts like this can sometimes give that proverbial spark a bit of extra oxygen so it comes back to live, ready to start that fire! Thanks a lot for you words.
  • Hi Bart,

    Thanks so much for your comment! I really appreciate the time you took to
    read the post and comment, and I'm glad you enjoyed it.

    I really love that rendition of Dancing in the Dark as well - just amazing
    =).