The Cavalry, The Lottery And The Fire


“In the depth of winter I finally learned that there was in me an invincible summer.”
– Albert Camus

Picture the scene – our hero gets knocked off his horse and is face down in the dirt…

He lifts his eyes up and sees the enemies’ boots in front of him.

He knows it’s over…you’re on the edge of your seat, and all of a sudden, out of nowhere….

He’s rescued!

The cavalry is here!

That’s great for the movies – but that’s not real life.

The fact is…if you go through life waiting for the cavalry to come, you’re doing yourself a disservice.

Today I’m going to share with you three ways dramatic shifts happen in the movies…but the truth is, there is likely only one of these three ways to see a dramatic shift in your own life.

Reflection Questions – The Most Important Questions You’ll Answer This Year


“Follow effective action with quiet reflection. From the quiet reflection will come even more effective action.”
– Peter F. Drucker

Too often in life we can get caught up in the unimportant, and lose sight of the gifts we have right in front of us. We can also lose our way, or forget the reasons we took on projects or goals in the first place.

For this reason, I like to think back over the last past twelve months, and plan for the year ahead by reflecting with a list of powerful questions I’ve developed over the years.

I’ve been cutting many non-essentials out of my life, and apply the same approach to my self reflection – focusing on only the questions that matter the most.

Here now is my intentionally short list :the most important (reflective) questions you’ll answer this year.

A Christmas Story – A Tale of Craig’s List and Two Frying Pans


“My brother will love these.  It’s the first time he has had a home in four years.  Thank you so much.”

He smiled, gave me a big, musky, hug, and drove away.

I wasn’t sure if I had just done a good deed, or been hustled by a Craig’s List scam artist.

This story actually begins months before – so let’s go back to the beginning.

Note: This is a true story, with names changed by request.

Failure Is Not The Real Enemy

“The greatest mistake you can make in life is to continually be afraid you will make one.”
Elbert Hubbard

As the clock winds down in your life, each second that passes is an opportunity that will never come again.

The first time that I had this thought, it scared me.

Over time however – it has empowered me, and I have helped my clients so that it empowers them.

Today, this moment, I want this knowledge to empower you and to teach you: that failure is not the real enemy.

The “Wanting” Life

Looking Out Into The Ocean

“Care about what other people think
and you will always be their prisoner.”
Lao Tzu

What do you think your life would be like….if you only chased after what you really, truly wanted?

Instead of what you think you should want? Let’s imagine this (maybe you’ve felt this way before)….

You’re looking at pictures and updates from your friends, seeing what they did this weekend –

  • Sitting around a fireplace laughing
  • Sipping tropical drinks on the beach
  • Cooking in their fancy kitchen
  • Climbing mountains

And you think to yourself – “I want to do that”

But do you really?

Or is there something else in the pictures you REALLY want?

You Can Break The Limits You’ve Placed On Yourself


Train the elephant while he is young, for he will never forget. At least, that’s how this story goes that I heard in India.

When an elephant is very young and small, their trainer ties them to a tree with a thick rope.

The baby elephant struggles and struggles – but is not strong enough.

Soon the elephant learns that his strength is no match for the rope.

He accepts his faith, gives up – and gets used to the idea that this rope can hold him.

As the elephant grows, even a simple string is enough to hold him without resistance.  He dares not struggle, remembering the rope that he could not break many years ago.

Though the string has no chance of holding the elephant, he does not realize that: he has convinced himself that it is stronger than him, and he never even tries.

For many people, the failure from past events is what they remember.  The memory of weakness, of not being strong enough stops them from even attempting to overcome challenges in their lives, even though their strength is much stronger now.

They never forget – and just like the elephant who will not try to break the string, they shy away from challenges in their lives that they could overcome – if they would only try.