Simple Time Saving Tip #62 – Stop Self Inflicted Junk Email

Remember when you first discovered that great website of Inspirational Quotes/Great Deals of The Day/Cat Pictures, etc?  You thought it was the best thing since sliced bread – so you signed up for the newsletter, and for the first couple weeks you loved it! You’d check your email, notice the shiny new newsletter in your inbox and shriek like a little girl seeing Clay Aiken for the first time.  You’d read some cute story about a kid and his dog and forward it to all your friends.

Fast forward 3 months later, and the novelty has worn off.  The cat pictures all look the same to you, you don’t want to buy anymore stuff (and in fact if you’re like me, you are trying to simplify your life by giving away stuff) and yet – you still get that newsletter in your inbox. You click delete and move on to the next email.

Even worse, various websites you have purchased items from have decided it’s ok to send you newsletters filled with “Special Promotions” that you might be interested in. You sigh, and click delete on those as well.

Why? Who is forcing you to receive any of these newsletters?  You are.  Every time you see one in your inbox and waste 3 seconds deleting it, you’re giving them permission to send you another.

So – Why Do We Just Delete Self Inflicted Junk Email Instead of Unsubscribing?

Because we would rather do less work in the moment, even if it is more work in the long term.  Simply put – we’re lazy, but we don’t realize that our laziness is actually causing us more effort.  I discuss this in detail in a previous article, The Curse of the Worst Acceptable Solution.  So how many steps is it really to unsubscribe versus just deleting a newsletter?

Steps required to unsubscribe from newsletters:

  1. Select the email
  2. Click to open the email
    1. Got 10 newsletters? You have to open them all one at a time.
  3. Read each email individually, find the unsubscribe button
    1. Can’t find it? Better look again.  Maybe it’s called “opt out” or maybe it’s “manage your email preferences” or maybe “login to manage your account.”  Maybe there IS no link, and they expect you to find it on the website on your own.
  4. Click “unsubscribe” or “opt out” or maybe “manage your email preferences.” or visit the website if they don’t provide an easy link for access
  5. Enter your email address or login to the website
    1. Oh no, you don’t remember your Login information? Better click “Forgot password.” Wait for that email to arrive (great, now we have twice as much email from this place).  Ok, got it? Login!
  6. Click the unsubscribe button
    1. Wait, I logged in, how do i unsubscribe? Ok let’s see, account preferences, manage email settings…
    2. Multi-newsletter site? Great, now I have to find the checkbox that’s checked, uncheck it to unsubscribe first, THEN I can unsubscribe
    3. Click the confirm unsubscribe button.  Really? You don’t think I’m sure I want to unsubscribe?  Yes, confirm!!  Congratulations, one newsletter down. Only 9 more to go.

Steps required to delete newsletters:

  1. Select email
    1. Got 10 newsletters? Select all of them at once!
  2. Push delete – all 10 newsletters are deleted!

No wonder we would rather just delete those newsletters! It’s so much effort to unsubscribe, and we get instant gratification from just deleting them. This is a bad habit, though, as just deleting them and never unsubscribing is going to result in you getting those email newsletters eternally. And at some point, perhaps after deleting 10 of them, it would have been less work if you had just unsubcribed months ago! Want to stop this vicious cycle? Here’s how.

The Sid Self Inflicted Junk Email Solution – Create a Self Inflicted Junk Email Folder

I never delete my self inflicted junk email – ever.  The positive reinforcement I get from deleting emails and clearing my inbox works against me in this particular situation, so I had to modify my behavior, but still give myself positive reinforcement for clearing those newsletters out of my inbox.

Rather than deleting them, I have a folder called ” – Self Inflicted Junk” (the hyphen is so it shows up at the top of my list of folders). Whenever I get something that I don’t read, whether I signed up for it or not, I resist the urge to delete – and just file it in that folder. Or if I do open it, and find that it is not longer relevant to me, I still don’t delete it – I file it in Self Inflicted Junk too.  Make no mistake about it – those newsletters that you didn’t sign up for, but get from merchants where you purchased stuff, those are self inflicted as well. The first one you get is their fault – each one you get after that though, it’s your fault for passively giving them permission to keep spamming you.

So now that I’ve got this wonderful digital pile of junk email, I’ll open that folder every few weeks and be amazed at just how much unnecessary junk email I’ve been filing away in there.  I sort them by title and/or sender, and unsubscribe from every list before I delete all the emails from that website. It might take me 15 minutes or half an hour, and at the end of it, I’ll never receive those newsletters ever again.

Bonus Tip – What About My Friends Who Keep Forwarding Me Junk?

We can’t unsubscribe from friends, but we can educate them on proper email etiquette.  Rather than writing an email yourself about it, and risk hurting their feelings personally, just head over to StopForwarding.Us, where you can politely (and most important – anonymously!) have your friend contacted and taught that they shouldn’t be sending you that junk anymore.

Want Some Self Inflicted Positive Email? Sign Up For SidSavara.com

Now that you know the solution to ridding yourself of newsletters you no longer read, and have maybe alienated some friends, you’re going to have a lot of empty space in your inbox.  Why not sign up for free updates on SidSavara.com, so you don’t have to keep coming back here to check if I’ve written a new article?

It’s free, fast, and I never spam.  I write an average of once or twice a week, and it’s easy to unsubscribe – I include a link at the bottom of every email to make unsubscribing as painless as possible.  Go ahead, and while you’re at it create a Self Inflicted Junk folder – make me earn the right to have my newsletters delivered to you.

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  • D
    I have a filter on my Gmail for all of those newsletters and whatnot that I read occasionally. Somewhere along the way I picked up the term 'Ham' (spam you sign up for) and it makes me chuckle when I go through it. It's more of a once a week thing, or if I'm bored. It is nice to have a cleaner inbox.
  • That's a good idea too. I do that with some automated work emails I get daily (software developer "check in messages" - that people have updated the project with new code). I think most people though aren't like us - so many of them either 1) just leave it in their inbox or 2) get frustrated that it's there, and never unsubscribe - they just delete it =)
  • Great idea. I read a book about living with all the excess in social media and explains how to put yourself on a 'media diet'.

    For people that insist on having spam, consider opening an email account at Yahoo or Gmail just for mailing lists. When you have time, have a look through the junk. If you don't have time, just let it build up and it won't be a clutter for your inbox.

    The great thing about an account of junk, when it gets to be too much you can close the account .
  • Hi Richard,

    Thanks for the comment! That book wouldn't be the Four-Hour Work Week by any chance would it? =)

    I think another interesting think I read was the concept of "email bankruptcy." You delete everything, mass email everyone who emailed you and say sorry - I couldn't deal with it. I'm declaring email bankruptcy. If it was important, please resend it.

    I've never done it, but I will admit to "marking all as read" when I'm reading blogs in Google Reader =)
  • what version of wordpress you use , thanks , i am asking because i like the plugin for the thumbnails in excerpts .but obviosly with wordpress 2.5.1. does not work,please answer...
  • Hi,

    I'm on 2.6.2. I had been creating thumbnails manually for a while - the plugin is way better =)
  • I don't know if it is laziness all the time. Sometimes I think people have a hard time letting go, they think they are going to "miss" something if they unsubscribe. Also, I have written several blog posts on cleaning up email and creating efficiencies myself, feel free to check them out: http://su.pr/8w3tcn
  • Hey Jason,

    You know, you're right - when I wrote the blog post I wrote it from the
    perspective of my assumptions for why we act the way we do. You bring up a
    good point though - we will stay subscribed to some store's newsletter for
    years, because we don't want to miss a sale, even though we haven't
    purchased anything from any of the newsletters they have been sending for
    months.