Sid Cancels Commitment, World Does Not End. Sometimes, You Need To Just Let it Go

After a series of software development mishaps this week, Sid Savara, who was scheduled to demo his pet project at Manoa Geeks discovered that the project was at risk of not being completed in time.  Sid had been looking forward to the event all week:  a chance to showcase himself in front of the who’s who in Hawaii’s tech community.   During the final stretch, however, Sid encountered some issues.

Sid weighed his options, made his decision, and lived with the fall out.

A Difficult Situation – Weighing The Options

As the deadline loomed, the software development team, (consisting  entirely of Sid) discovered themselves hopelessly behind schedule.  They were unable to work through implementation as quick as they had hoped, and at this rate the deadline was going to get the better of them.  Tradeoffs needed to be made, long hours and additional developers were considered: everything was on the table.  Sid thus considered his options:

  1. Get It Done At All Costs.  In this scenario, Sid would work through the issues, forgoing hours of sleep, time with his friends, and likely hampering his other goals.  It’s a strategy that has been used successfully in the past, and a perennial crowd favorite.  Everyone loves a good war story, where the hero works on the beta software right up until the last minute and the demonstration is pulled off successfully.  The option of choice sure to elicit toasts, pats on the back, and “back in my day” stories for years to come.
  2. Present it Half Finished.  Work through some of the problems, and present a lame demo of a half-completed project.  To compensate for the lack of functionality, slick powerpoint presentations, bullet points and talking around the issues will be used to distract the audience.  Generally the fall back plan after #1 has fallen through.  Given the current state of affairs, as much as #1 would be preferable, this option had to be considered as a likely scenario.  Nobody likes a lame demo, especially the people giving it.
  3. Just Let It Go.  The unthinkable:  admit temporary defeat, cancel his commitment, and continue life as normal. This would be difficult for someone as accomplished and unaccustomed to failure as Sid, and truly a measure of last resort.

The Decision Is Made – and The Fallout

After careful consideration, Sid decided to Just Let It Go.  He emailed the organizer, Ryan Ozawa, and told him he wouldn’t be able to demo anything, but would still attend Manoa Geeks.  Friends, history shall judge whether it was the right time to withdraw.  Ryan swiftly rendered this stern judgment (reprinted in its entirety):

Aloha e Sid,

Bummer! But it’s most important that you be there!  See you then.

Ryan

Aloha e Sid, indeed. (loosely translated aloha means any number of things:  hello, love, welcome, goodbye)

The Demo Is Scrapped – Yet Somehow, The World Goes On

Manoa Geeks was yesterday evening, and from all appearances, the lack of Sid’s demo presented little consequence, save for perhaps making a liar out of Ryan on Twitter.   The sponsor, ILovePhotos showcased a development build of their application that has been getting fantastic reviews around the web, and put on a great event.  The free pizza and company were excellent, and Ryan’s planning, if anything, was easier with one less demonstration to account for.

The lesson?  Sometimes we make commitments we can’t live up to, and we need to just let it go.  Drop the ball once in a while.   It’s ok:  I, and Ryan, give you permission.

Aloha e friends.

PS – This shouldn’t be misconstrued as carte blanche to just let everything fall apart.  Back out of your commitments too often without reason and you risk coming off as flaky, and someone who cannot keep their word.  From time to time however, we all have setbacks, bad days, or simply overcommit.  Relax, and just let it go.

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  • What a great concept, Sid! So simple, yet so often never considered. I think we often feel like going forward with our commitments are the only options, even when going forward is worse then not going at all. I'll remember this post the next time I'm stuck in that corner. Eric.
  • Thanks Eric!

    I've been having a bit of fun with it lately too, asking myself if some of
    the things I'm doing really benefit me and/or the world long term (can't
    always do things just for myself!). If there really is nothing in it for
    anyone except me, and I don't care about it that much ... I'll just drop
    it.

    So far, the worst that has come of this is lots of dishes left in the sink
    until I finally decide it's worthwhile to wash them.
  • Sid - I loved this post because it's true - we aren't always able to finish what we said we'd do. We're human. Things happen. The best we can do is just admit it and let it go. Accept that maybe it wasn't "meant to be." I've been there numerous times myself. Of course, it doesn't feel good but it doesn't do us any good to beat ourselves up. Good that you didn't do that.

    I believe that you'll have another opportunity at another time. Your time will come. Just set the intention and it will arrive at your doorstep before you know it.

    I appreciated your transparency in this situation.
  • Thanks Stephen!

    You're right - no point beating myself up over it. Although it really
    wasn't as big a deal as I made it out to be, since the event is monthly -
    but I enjoy writing with some drama ;)
  • Sid, I really appreciate you sharing your experiences honestly. I studied as a software engineer, and I know that projects don't always go as planned. You did well to weigh all your options. And there will be more opportunities in the future!
  • Thanks! Software development is probably one of the most unpredictable as
    well - since you can't "see" how big a problem is, you might think you're
    90% done only to find out you're really only half finished, and it's more
    complicated than you originally thought =)
  • Hi Sid,

    Sometimes it takes the guts to quit and sometimes it is necessary to quit in order to bring back our focus.

    Cheers
    Vincent
    Personal Development Blogger
  • Sometimes we just need to let things go! Simple statement, often very difficult to do in practise.. Now that I have your permission however ;)
  • Sure, and if someone gives you a hard time about it, send them to this post
    ;)
  • Right on! I'll be saying something like, "HEY.... It's Ok: SidSavara (and Ryan), gave me permission, so too bad...." :D
  • Reminds me of that Seth Godin book "The Dip".

    And I agree with you by the way, sometimes you just gotta cut your losses...
  • I read Seth's blog and reread "The Dip" every few months or so, great book!


    I just recently finished his new book Tribes as well - he sent all the
    people who pre-ordered the book an extra copy to give out to friends. It
    felt a bit disorganized but interesting, I'm sure some of it seeped into my
    subconscious.