How To Actively Take Control of Your Time and Your Life

“It is not in the stars to hold our destiny but in ourselves.”
– William Shakespeare

I have been thinking lately about actively wasting versus passively wasting life.  

How often do you end a day, a meeting, or perhaps just glance up at the clock and wonder – “where did the time go?”

Or perhaps on your birthday or as you celebrate the new year you realize how much time in your life has passed.

None of us want to waste time – but if you don’t active take control, time will leak away from you, in small increments throughout the day.  

And today, I’m going to show you six ways to actively take control – and own that time.

“This is your life and it’s ending one minute at a time”
– Chuck Palahniuk

Focus On What Matters: A Life Lesson From an English Busker

It was summer in London – warm, clear skies and we had just finished an amazing day of sightseeing.  I was on a once-in-a-lifetime trip with some of my best friends.  It stayed bright until late in the day so even though it was already evening, the sky was lit up with color.

As we entered the tube station surrounded by other tourists jabbering in different languages, I heard a busker strumming Oasis’ Wonderwall on his  guitar down the hall and singing the first verse –

Today is gonna be the day
That they’re gonna throw it back to you
By now you should’ve somehow
Realized what you gotta do
I don’t believe that anybody
Feels the way I do about you now
– Oasis – Wonderwall from (What’s the Story) Morning Glory

We tossed in a few coins and kept walking.

After we passed and he finished the verse, he went silent for a few seconds.

We were almost to our platform when I heard him start strumming again.

I assumed he was going to continue the song – but he didn’t.

Instead, he began singing the opening verse again –

Today is gonna be the day
That they’re gonna throw it back to you…

How To Have a Productive Day: Pay Yourself First With Your Time

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“Time is the coin of your life.
It is the only coin you have, and only you can determine how it will be spent.
Be careful lest you let other people spend it for you. “
– Carl Sandburg 

Each week I put aside money for my savings, investments and other expenses before spending any of it. 

If there is not enough to pay the bills, I cut down on excess spending on extraneous things.

But I always pay myself first.

That’s just money though – they print more of it every day.

What about my most important currency – what about my time?

The Ultimate Productivity System

Tired of complicated, long winded productivity systems that end up wasting your time – and leaving you more confused? I’ve been there.  Too often you’ve probably seen it yourself – you or someone close to you is trying to improve their life, get organized, and instead they get bogged down in some complicated system.

I’ve seen people start out with good intentions, but then get stuck spending more time maintaining their system than actually doing their tasks.

If there is one secret to really accomplishing what you desire, it is this:

What Dreams Will Die With You?

Imagine if you will being on your death bed – And standing around your bed – the ghosts of the ideas, the dreams, the abilities, the talents given to you by life.

And that you for whatever reason, you never acted on those ideas, you never pursued that dream, you never used those talents, we never saw your leadership, you never used your voice, you never wrote that book…

Setting Realistic Goals: 7 Keys To Set Goals You Can Actually Achieve

“The victory of success is half won when one gains the habit of setting goals and achieving them.

Even the most tedious chore will become endurable as you parade through each day convinced that every task, no matter how menial or boring, brings you closer to fulfilling your dreams.”
– Og Mandino

It has taken me a long time to learn how to effectively set realistic goals.  As I made mistakes and figured out what worked for me, I thought I was unusual – I thought everyone easily set goals except for me. Over the years as I’ve worked with and mentored people, however, I’ve learned my situation was not that unusual – in fact, it’s far more common than we think.

We’ve all been told that we should set goals, and we assume that we can – but most of us have never been taught how to set goals effectively so they are realistic and achievable.

One of the most sobering goal setting statistics I learned in my research on setting New Year’s resolutions was that 25% of resolutions were broken in the first week.  And the odds didn’t get much better for the first couple months – among gym goers, 80% drop out within eight weeks.

I think a large part of this is due to not having realistic goals – without something to shoot towards, it’s easy to get discouraged and give up.  It’s hard enough to make changes in our life and accomplish what we desire – if your goal is unrealistic, or not well defined, then you’re starting out with an immediate handicap.

So, what can you do to keep your goals on track? Here are seven keys for setting realistic goals.